the art of you

i believe it takes something heartbreaking in your life to realize that you have all you need within yourself. doesn’t matter if it’s a breakup, a friendship ending, a death of a loved one, a relocation, or a hard career change. something must happen to you to realize that you can rely on yourself. you need to be shown that you in fact can live without that person or that thing in your life. like i said before, you have everything you need within yourself.

if you are like me then you didn’t believe this. you were stuck in your daily life of leaning on others for emotional well being. you went through so much in such a little time that all you did was go to that one person or thing that made you feel “okay”. the thing that sheltered you from the storm. It's not the fact that they calmed the storm; they distracted you from the storm. the storm was within you so the storm could only be calmed by you. now im not saying that you cant go to someone because they wont help you. im just saying if you are looking for someone or something to fix all of your problems then you will never find that. you will always look for more; more reassurance, more things to worry about, more of it all. more ways that you can distract yourself from the storm without actually going through it.

my best friend said to me the other day, “if we weren’t born with the ability to heal ourselves then we wouldn’t be able to heal physically either.” yes, i know doctors are heros and life savers and sometimes we really do need them. but if you think about it, if we care for ourselves physically; eat healthy, exercise and stay clean then we do statistically have a better chance at surviving through a health crisis. not saying that we can predict our health fully but we can feel better and live a better life in those ways.

i think that can be reflected into our mental health. if we take the time to care for ourselves by listening to our emotions, working through them and learning how to reflect on them then we can create a healthier lifestyle. then during those times where we can’t predict our mental health like losing a loved one or going through a breakup, we don’t have to fully rely on someone or something else, we can just lean on them. we can learn to be equipped with those skills of self care so we know how to make ourselves feel just a little bit better everyday. this may take going through a situation like this where you lose that support and you didn’t build up your habits before; so when this happens you feel lost and numb.

you will grow through this. everything happens for a reason even if it doesn’t make sense in the moment or ever. if you are going through the storm right now just know, only you can calm the storm. you can make things better within yourself, no matter how hard the circumstances are; you are so capable of getting through them. i am here for you.